How many times do we try to get our kids to "say you are sorry" I had to substitute the sunbeams two weeks ago and the first lesson was on "saying you are sorry" and the next week it was on "forgiving others when they say they are sorry" My question is; why as adults do we still probably need the Spirit on our shoulder whispering the same thing? Somewhere along the line I picked up the marriage advice: Be the first to say you are sorry. That's all well and good until you feel like you are NOT in the wrong, you don't want to say sorry, and for sure don't want to say it first... HELLO, am I still three? Indy and I have a pretty easy relationship, and it's not often that we fight or argue. Last night we took the kids to dinner, it had been a long busy Saturday of football and getting things done around the house. We were sitting in a booth and I brought up a subject that we have been meaning to talk to the kids about. Indy let me know it was not the time and place for that subject and did it in a fashion I found annoying, so I retorted with an equally annoying come-back. He asked me why I was being obnoxious and I answered I that I was only copying him. (ok I know very childish) silence ensued we finished dinner and left. We were supposed to go and get some grocery shopping done....
Me: "We can take the kids home and I will go and do the shopping by myself."
Him: "Why because you don't want to be around me right now?"
Me: "Pretty much"
At this point I DO NOT want to apologize but I do anyway
Me:" I am sorry I retorted in an obnoxious manner to your comment. I am sure you did not intend for it to annoy me".... and then he apologized and all was well.
My point is that those lessons in Sunbeam class apply when you are 4 and when you are 34.
4 comments:
Every time I teach a character lesson of some sort to my elementary kids, I think, "Man, I could use this way more than them..."
And, PP is a doll. I Loved her dress today, and she smiled big when I told her.:)
LOVE it!!! I think I had this same discussion with Spence last week:)
You're 34??!!! When did this happen? Man, you're old-ha! Oh but wait so am I! And those lessons should definitely apply to us adults as well! Good thoughts, thanks for sharing!
Well, I learned a long time ago that adults are just children in mature bodies who still make the same mistakes and play the same stupid prideful games. If you don't believe me, just ask my husband:) Problem is, he doesn't like to act that way, so he won't play along. It's really quite annoying:)
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